A split between the two needs: AUTONOMY vs. CONNECTION Most relational and personal struggles aswell as what relational trauma evokes...

This one builds on my post from yesterday about the connection between needs, midlife/quaterlife crisis and our nervous system. While ...

At the beginning of every partnership there is euphoria, connectedness and infatuation. Love is in focus! And everyone has experienced...

Why would you have secrets in a relationship for any other reason than: 😓 being afraid to cause hurt, 🙄 discussion or 😰 abandonment?...

I'm learning so much about myself the last weeks. After decades of identifying with certain personality traits, virtues and ...

A few days ago I stumbled over this quote from Deb Dana: "Trauma compromises our ability to engage with others by replacing patterns of...

Attachment styles like : 😎 Avoidant Attachment 😱 Anxious Attachment 😵‍💫 Disorganized Attachment or 🥰 Safe Attachment are...

My work isn't managing relationships. It's not finding solutions for your relational problems. It's not giving you advise. Or telling...

The quote from Rumi strikes me so intensely because it made even more clear to me what my actual offer to you is. “Your task is not...

The last years I've been learning alot from Love. I intentionally don't write 'about' Love. But from her. Wheras my relationships until...

The day before I got a call from a client who was visiting me for a couples mentoring session with his partner the morning. He was quite...

While unfortunately most people in our culture haven't yet realised the necessity of trauma awareness to live in a thriving...

Actually that's what partnerships are there for. A partnership isn't there to keep you cosy and stable - this might always be a welcomed...

It's often not easy to distinguish the one from the other! And although alot of people will tell you '5 (to 10) signs to spot real/false...

A few days ago I shared a beautiful quote in a story. Although the quote touched something in my depths it was only after a reply from...

One of the biggest misconceptions in relationships is that we have to be aligned in viewpoint and perspective to feel the connection. ...

Lately I was struggling with a certain topic. As always, I get that mirrored back in my mentoring sessions. Clients asked me: Where ...

My heart cracked open once more yesterday through the love I recieve in all her purity, while the form is not what I wished for. I'm...

Some reflection of what is going on in the world: Looking in the world and really opening my eyes to this the last years, I can only...

I have experienced that most people have a wish to do so but actually it seldom works out really - at least in longer term. I totally...