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NEEDAWARNESS AS AN EVER CHANGING ORGANISM
This one builds on my post from yesterday about the connection between needs, midlife/quaterlife crisis and our nervous system. While ...


WE N E E D OUR NEEDS
Yesterday - again - talking with a client in a therapy session the topic of 'miflife crisis came up'. I say 'again' because when dealing...


WHERE DOES DISSATISFACTION IN RELATIONSHIPS COME FROM?
At the beginning of every partnership there is euphoria, connectedness and infatuation. Love is in focus! And everyone has experienced...


THE COURAGE TO RELATE
A few days ago I stumbled over this quote from Deb Dana: "Trauma compromises our ability to engage with others by replacing patterns of...


OUR F*CKED UP WAY OF RELATING IS A CULTURAL PHENOMENON
The day before I got a call from a client who was visiting me for a couples mentoring session with his partner the morning. He was quite...


THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN CONSCIOUS AND EVOLUTIONARY RELATING
While unfortunately most people in our culture haven't yet realised the necessity of trauma awareness to live in a thriving...


DEEP CONNECTION IS EVOLUTIONARY
Actually that's what partnerships are there for. A partnership isn't there to keep you cosy and stable - this might always be a welcomed...


DON'T MIX UP TRAUMA-BONDING WITH LOVING
It's often not easy to distinguish the one from the other! And although alot of people will tell you '5 (to 10) signs to spot real/false...


MANAGING THE HUMAN SPLIT
Lately I was struggling with a certain topic. As always, I get that mirrored back in my mentoring sessions. Clients asked me: Where ...


THE HUMAN DILEMMA OF LOVE HAVING NO FORM
My heart cracked open once more yesterday through the love I recieve in all her purity, while the form is not what I wished for. I'm...


LOOK AT THE SHIT WE CALL LOVE THESE DAYS
Some reflection of what is going on in the world: Looking in the world and really opening my eyes to this the last years, I can only...
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