A split between the two needs: AUTONOMY vs. CONNECTION Most relational and personal struggles aswell as what relational trauma evokes...

This one builds on my post from yesterday about the connection between needs, midlife/quaterlife crisis and our nervous system. While ...

Yesterday - again - talking with a client in a therapy session the topic of 'miflife crisis came up'. I say 'again' because when dealing...

At the beginning of every partnership there is euphoria, connectedness and infatuation. Love is in focus! And everyone has experienced...

Why would you have secrets in a relationship for any other reason than: 😓 being afraid to cause hurt, 🙄 discussion or 😰 abandonment?...

I'm learning so much about myself the last weeks. After decades of identifying with certain personality traits, virtues and ...

A few days ago I stumbled over this quote from Deb Dana: "Trauma compromises our ability to engage with others by replacing patterns of...

Attachment styles like : 😎 Avoidant Attachment 😱 Anxious Attachment 😵‍💫 Disorganized Attachment or 🥰 Safe Attachment are...

My work isn't managing relationships. It's not finding solutions for your relational problems. It's not giving you advise. Or telling...

Since I'm back in Leipzig after my adventurous journey (see posts before) I had some difficulty to land & come to rest. So this morning...

The last years I've been learning alot from Love. I intentionally don't write 'about' Love. But from her. Wheras my relationships until...

It's often not easy to distinguish the one from the other! And although alot of people will tell you '5 (to 10) signs to spot real/false...

Holding myself as an anxious attached person is crucial when it comes to stepping out of toxic and downward spiralling relationship...