A split between the two needs: AUTONOMY vs. CONNECTION Most relational and personal struggles aswell as what relational trauma evokes...

This one builds on my post from yesterday about the connection between needs, midlife/quaterlife crisis and our nervous system. While ...

Yesterday - again - talking with a client in a therapy session the topic of 'miflife crisis came up'. I say 'again' because when dealing...

At the beginning of every partnership there is euphoria, connectedness and infatuation. Love is in focus! And everyone has experienced...

Why would you have secrets in a relationship for any other reason than: 😓 being afraid to cause hurt, 🙄 discussion or 😰 abandonment?...

A few days ago I stumbled over this quote from Deb Dana: "Trauma compromises our ability to engage with others by replacing patterns of...

Attachment styles like : 😎 Avoidant Attachment 😱 Anxious Attachment 😵‍💫 Disorganized Attachment or 🥰 Safe Attachment are...

The quote from Rumi strikes me so intensely because it made even more clear to me what my actual offer to you is. “Your task is not...

The day before I got a call from a client who was visiting me for a couples mentoring session with his partner the morning. He was quite...

While unfortunately most people in our culture haven't yet realised the necessity of trauma awareness to live in a thriving...

Actually that's what partnerships are there for. A partnership isn't there to keep you cosy and stable - this might always be a welcomed...